Don’t be “Catfished” for Valentine’s Day – 5 Steps to Help Avoid Online Dating Deception

Julie Ferman

Did your online lover turn out to be a young boy playing a prank or an imposter? As in the documentary film and reality TV show “Catfish”, some people go to elaborate lengths to misrepresent themselves online and “hook” you into relationship. Eventually meeting the imposter can be heartbreaking and worse.

Julie Ferman, eLove’s Chief Relationship Expert, founder of Cupid’s Coach, and recipient of iDate’s Best Matchmaker award for the fourth consecutive year, shares five steps to help avoid this cruel deception:

Avoid the “bait and switch”. Photos that look too good to be true probably are. Those looking to deceive have no qualms about letting you believe they look like the image they have shared. They want to draw you in, and the easiest way to do so is by misrepresenting themselves with an attractive image that often doesn’t resemble the real person in the slightest.

Play the sleuth, if you haven’t already. Cross-reference your date’s information on his/her Facebook page with Twitter, their personal blog or with a professional page such as LinkedIn. If they make a claim that they hold a high profile job, visit that company’s website to see if staff is listed. At the very least, do a simple Google or white page search for your date to verify if they even live in the town, or the state, that they say they do.

Let video speak the truth. Seek authentication. Forgo chatting online via Facebook and encourage video chatting online via FaceTime, Skype, Gmail or iGoogle.

Meet in person. Period. There really is no valid excuse for carrying on a relationship with someone for longer than two weeks and not meeting in person. If all your suggestions of meeting in person and/or video chatting online are skillfully avoided and something always comes up which prevents the two of you meeting, then you should be very concerned and seriously consider ending the relationship.

Assume the best, prepare for the worst. Most people are good, honorable and safe to meet. Don’t be so cautious that you wall yourself off in your closet. Have the courage to get out there, attend events, meet up at business functions and online too. But do take these precautions to protect yourself in case you stumble upon a predator as they are indeed out there.

“No one likes to be deceived or ‘catfished’. A successful relationship is based on a number of things, but most important are: spending time (in person) together, truthfulness, honesty, respect and ultimately, the concern or care you have for that other person. Misrepresentation plays no role in a successful relationship,” explained Ms. Ferman.

She continued, “When it comes to helping others meet, find love and enjoy a successful long-term relationship, we take steps to ensure authenticity. Prior to making an introduction, we meet face-to-face with both parties and verify their identity. Then we go to great lengths to get to know each member and introduce them to qualified matches. After each date, we obtain feedback from both parties immediately.”

eLove is All You Need

eLove was honored with four coveted awards from iDate, including Best Matchmaker, Most Innovative Company, Best Dating Coach, and Best Affiliate Program.eLove is the first “life stage company” within the dating industry to provide different levels of dating services, based on how serious singles are about meeting their soul mate. Never before has a dating service catered so completely to everyone regardless of their age, sex, or relationship goals. With more than 35 matchmaking offices in 19 states and three offices in Canada, eLove Matchmaking is everything that singles have been wishing for whether they are looking for better quality dating experiences or a long term relationship.

Elove’s Matchmaking offices are located in: Arizona, California, Connecticut, Illinois, Indiana, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Nebraska, Nevada, New Jersey, Ohio, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, Texas, Virginia, Wisconsin, and in Canada: Calgary, Mississauga, Edmonton.

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If you would like more information about this topic, or to schedule an interview, please call Terry Fitzpatrick at 781-982-4522 or email pr@elovecorp.com.

Valentine’s Day is around the corner. eLove Matchmaker explains true meaning of Romance

Paul A. Falzone, CEO of eLove Matchmaking

The first Valentine greeting was sent by a priest known as Valentine in third century Rome to his jailor’s daughter, whom he fell in love with while in prison. How could such an endearing message of love evolve into the parade of elaborate gifts and hype of today?

Paul A. Falzone, CEO of eLove Matchmaking, one of the largest professional introduction companies in the world, explains, “A candlelit dinner and a dozen roses is a sweet gesture, but everybody does it. Dining out has become commonplace. The true meaning of romance lies in originality. Your ‘message of love’ has to be personal and really mean something to the recipient.”

Falzone gives examples of a few romantic gestures that may give you some of your own creative ideas:

Say it with flowers – all year long. You know your sweetheart loves white hydrangeas no matter what the season. Arrange a monthly delivery of her favorite flower for a full year with your florist, with the first delivery beginning on Valentine’s Day. Not telling her that she’ll receive a beautiful arrangement every month is part of the romantic surprise.

Say “you’re special to me” by knowing what s/he likes the most. Maybe she loves live theater, but always seems to miss out on shows because she waits until the last minute to get tickets. Get her season tickets and then escort her.

Support his/her dreams. Perhaps he mentioned that mountain climbing was something he always dreamed about doing. You don’t need to climb the mountain with him, but you might give him a piece of equipment he’ll need to do it or a membership to a climbing club. Supporting his dreams is romantic.

Revisit a special place. On your third date, you went on a picnic on a hill overlooking the town and watched the sunset. That’s the day when you both knew you were serious about each other. You may not be able to recreate the entire scene, but it’s romantic to do it again in honor of that special day.

“Giving jewelry or other big ticket gifts on Valentine’s Day seems to be the norm, but romance is a little more than that. It’s easy to go a store and buy a gift. It’s more about knowing your sweetheart and making a very personal gesture. It’s going out of your way to let them know they are special to you,” said Falzone.

Off-beat Date Contest

Have a great, “offbeat date” story? eLove Matchmaking is holding a Valentine’s Day contest and may publish it online at elovemagazine.com. Email your “Best Offbeat Date” story to eLove Matchmaking at pr@elove.com.

eLove is all you need

With more than 50 matchmaking offices in 25 states, eLove Matchmaking is everything that singles have been wishing for. eLove Matchmaking was voted “#1 Matchmaker” in 2010 and 2011 and their professional matchmakers have paired literally thousands of singles over the past three decades. In addition to a one-on-one meeting with each member, eLove conducts thorough background checks for the safety of everyone they match.

eLove Matchmaking offices are located in: Arizona (Scottsdale/Phoenix); Arkansas (Bentonville, Fort Smith, Little Rock); California (Costa Mesa, Palo Alto, Sacramento, Walnut Creek, San Diego, Santa Rosa, Westlake, West Hollywood); Connecticut (Glastonbury, Stamford); Illinois (Chicago, Normal, Schaumburg); Indiana (Carmel, Ft. Wayne); Kansas (Overland Park, Wichita); Maryland (Columbia, Frederick); Massachusetts (Newton, Norwell, Shrewsbury, Stoneham); Michigan (Bingham Farms); Minnesota (Bloomington); Missouri (Springfield, St. Louis); Nebraska (Lincoln, Omaha); Nevada (Las Vegas); New Jersey (Iselin, Saddle Brook); Ohio (Cincinnati); Oklahoma (Broken Arrow, Oklahoma City, Tulsa); Pennsylvania (Mechanicsburg, King of Prussia); Rhode Island (Warwick); South Carolina (Greenville); Tennessee (Memphis, Franklin); Texas (Austin, San Antonio); Virginia (Falls Church, Richmond); Wisconsin (Appleton, Elm Grove, Madison).

For more information on eLove, visit www.elove.com.

According to Right at Home South Shore president, Love and Companionship Result in a Healthier and Longer Life

Libet Callahan, RN, BSN, president of the South Shore's Right at Home

With the arrival of Valentine’s Day on February 14, February has been designated as the month of love. But dark chocolate isn’t the only sweet gift that is good for the heart – building strong relationships and socializing with others play a vital role in living a longer and healthier life. The medical profession has been telling us for years that eating right and getting regular exercise will improve longevity. However, many physicians are now saying that maintaining positive relationships also can contribute to keeping people healthy. In numerous studies, researchers have found that people who have strong friendships and have the opportunity to socialize with others, age better, recover from illness more quickly, have stronger immunity and live longer, more personally fulfilling lives.

The connection between relationships and life expectancy is not a new theory. In a recent study at Brigham Young University and the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill involving more than 300,000 men and women across the developed world, researchers found that those who were considered to have poor social connections and limited opportunity for socialization had an average of 50 percent higher odds of death (an average of 7.5 years) than those with “robust” social ties and regular socialization. That is a significant difference not only in longevity, but also, in quality of life.

Among the aging, the lack of ongoing relationships and regular socialization is a common concern. For many aging adults their relatives, neighbors and friends move, go into long-term-care or die, leaving them isolated and alone. One health problem reported by Medical News Today links the risk of developing Alzheimer’s disease in old age to social isolation. Loneliness was linked to lower levels of cognitive function as well as more rapid decline of general physical function. People who identified themselves as “lonely” experienced double the risk of developing Alzheimer’s than those who described themselves as “least lonely”. It is estimated that 28 percent of Americans older than age 65 live alone, which exacerbates this problem. It is important for seniors and their caregivers to be aware of the potential for social isolation and how to create opportunities to develop personal bonds with others.

Here are some considerations to minimize senior isolation and loneliness:
Encourage your aging loved one to participate in local activities at their church, synagogue or senior center. Many senior centers offer transportation to and from the facility at low or no cost.
Coordinate with siblings and relatives to ensure that your loved one receives a visit or at least one phone call daily.
Adult day care centers can be a great resource for socialization and cognitive stimulation.
Senior Homecare agencies like Right at Home can provide vetted companions that offer socialization as well as help with food preparation, light housekeeping and transportation to doctor appointments, shopping or just to go visit a friend.
Keep in mind that love from friends and family could be the key to ensuring a longer, happier life, not just on February 14, but all year long. Remember your aging loved ones this Valentine’s Day by giving a cherished gift – your time.
About Right At Home

Right at Home provides non-medical in-home care services to seniors and disabled adults throughout the South Shore. Right At Home is among the first in the state to earn Accreditation from the Home Care Alliance of Massachusetts. As a private-pay home care agency, Right At Home can provide services in settings other than the home, such as in assisted living facilities, continuing care retirement facilities, skilled nursing facilities, nursing homes, rehabilitation centers and hospitals.

Right at Home provides care services of companionship, homemaking, physical assistance, hygiene and wellness. In addition, Right At Home accommodates clients in special care situations providing home care for Alzheimer’s and other dementia, osteoarthritis, hypertension/stroke, diabetes, heart disease, neuromuscular diseases and disorders, cancer recovery, hospice/palliative care support, mental health, traumatic brain injury and paraplegia/quadriplegia. All Right At Home caregivers are fully insured and bonded, must pass a vigorous background check, complete a training program and pass a competency test before being placed with a client.

The company serves the following areas: Abington, Braintree, Bridgewater, Brockton (East Side), Carver, Cohasset, Duxbury, East Bridgewater, Halifax, Hanover, Hanson, Hingham, Holbrook, Hull, Kingston, Marshfield, Middleboro, Milton, Norwell, Pembroke, Plymouth, Plympton, Randolph, Rockland, Scituate, Wareham, Weymouth and Whitman. Right at Home has offices located at 800 Hingham Street, in Rockland, MA and 38 Resnik Road in Plymouth, MA. For more information contact 866-681-3545 or visit the website at http://www.rightathome.net/southshore/.

eLove Matchmaking Launches Valentine’s Day Contest

Whether it was your first date or your thirty-first date – if you have a great, offbeat date story, eLove Matchmaking wants to hear about it.

eLove Matchmaking is holding a Valentine’s Day contest for the “Best Offbeat Date” story. From now until February 13th, submit your “Best, Offbeat Date” story for a chance to win a $50 Darden Restaurant Gift Card.

“We’ve all experienced that quirky date, where plans get mixed up, Mother Nature interferes or the date takes an amusing, unusual twist. The funny thing is that an offbeat date can turn out to be a positive experience and oftentimes the beginning of a beautiful relationship,” said Paul A. Falzone, CEO of eLove, one of the largest professional introduction companies in the world.

Perhaps your romantic dinner at a swanky restaurant turned into a giddy farce when you were provided with only bread sticks and wine due to a power outage from severe weather. Or, the time your date dinged another couple’s car while parallel parking and you ended up on a double date with the other couple, springing for dinner as restitution. eLove Matchmaking will share the submitted stories online at elovemagazine.com.

On Valentine’s Day, three winning “Best, Offbeat Date” stories will be announced. Winners will receive a $50 Darden Gift Card to be used at any one of the following six restaurants: Red Lobster, Olive Garden, Longhorn Steak House, The Capital Grille, Bahama Breeze or Seasons 52.

Email your “Best Offbeat Date” story to eLove Matchmaking at pr@elove.com .

eLove is all you need

With more than 50 matchmaking offices in 25 states, eLove Matchmaking is everything that singles have been wishing for. eLove Matchmaking was voted “#1 Matchmaker” in 2010 and 2011 and their professional matchmakers have paired literally thousands of singles over the past three decades. In addition to a one-on-one meeting with each member, eLove conducts thorough background checks for the safety of everyone they match.

eLove Matchmaking offices are located in: Arizona (Scottsdale/Phoenix); Arkansas (Bentonville, Fort Smith, Little Rock); California (Costa Mesa, Palo Alto, Sacramento, Walnut Creek, San Diego, Santa Rosa, Westlake, West Hollywood); Connecticut (Glastonbury, Stamford); Illinois (Chicago, Normal, Schaumburg); Indiana (Carmel, Ft. Wayne); Kansas (Overland Park, Wichita); Maryland (Columbia, Frederick); Massachusetts (Newton, Norwell, Shrewsbury, Stoneham); Michigan (Bingham Farms); Minnesota (Bloomington); Missouri (Springfield, St. Louis); Nebraska (Lincoln, Omaha); Nevada (Las Vegas); New Jersey (Iselin, Saddle Brook); Ohio (Cincinnati); Oklahoma (Broken Arrow, Oklahoma City, Tulsa); Pennsylvania (Mechanicsburg, King of Prussia); Rhode Island (Warwick); South Carolina (Greenville); Tennessee (Memphis, Franklin); Texas (Austin, San Antonio); Virginia (Falls Church, Richmond); Wisconsin (Appleton, Elm Grove, Madison).

For more information on eLove, visit www.elove.com.

Ensure Cupid Hits the Mark this Valentine’s Day – Tips from eLove’s Paul Falzone

Paul A. Falzone, matchmaking expert and CEO of eLove, the fastest growing matchmaking firm in the country with over 50 matchmaking offices nationwide and home offices in Norwell, MA and Los Angeles, CA, shares tips with men on what women generally want.

Whether you’ve been dating for weeks, years or you’ve already tied the knot, Falzone offers men insight into what women want in general, to help ensure Cupid hits the mark this Valentine’s Day or any other day.

Here are Falzone’s tips on what women want:

A man who listens.

A man who comes to the rescue. You’re an everyday hero if you can stop her dishwasher from leaking, fix her email problems or get rid of that big spider in the house.

A man who can ‘fry the bacon up in the pan’. Even the most talented female cooks don’t enjoy making meals all the time. If you can cook – do so. If you can’t, dine out.

A man who tells her what he thinks or how he feels. If you think she looks beautiful, makes you laugh, impresses you or you really enjoy being with her – tell her.

A man who is willing to share responsibility. Whether it’s the responsibility of taking care of a home or children, or of nurturing your relationship with each other.

“These are some general tips for men to consider to ensure Cupid hits the mark on Valentine’s Day or any other day for that matter. Be her Valentine all year long. All the ‘little things’ really do add up because she DOES notice them. Yes, your sweetheart will love receiving two dozen long stemmed red roses for Valentine’s Day, but you know what? She’ll also appreciate your other efforts. These are a few ways you can show her you care about her,” explained Falzone.

eLove is all you need

eLove, the next evolution in dating, has arrived. eLove is the first “life stage company” within the dating industry to provide different levels of dating services, from internet to traditional matchmaking, based on how serious singles are about meeting their soul mate. Never before has a dating service catered so completely to everyone regardless of their age, sex, or relationship goals. With over 50 matchmaking offices in 23 states and an online dating network of more than three million singles worldwide, eLove is everything that singles have been wishing for whether they are looking for casual dating or a serious, committed relationship.

eLove’s Matchmaking Service offices are located in: Arkansas (Bentonville, Fort Smith, Little Rock); California (Los Angeles, Palo Alto, Sacramento, Walnut Creek, San Diego, Santa Rosa, Westlake); Connecticut (Glastonbury, Stamford); Illinois (Chicago, Downers Grove, Normal, Schaumburg, Rockford); Indiana (Carmel, Ft. Wayne); Kansas (Overland Park, Wichita); Maryland (Columbia, Frederick); Massachusetts (Newton, Norwell, Shrewsbury, Woburn); Michigan (Bingham Farms);Minnesota (Edina); Missouri (Springfield, St. Louis); Nebraska (Lincoln, Omaha); New Jersey (Iselin, Saddle Brook); Nevada (Las Vegas); Ohio (Cincinnati); Oklahoma (Oklahoma City, Tulsa); Pennsylvania (Mechanicsburg, Philadelphia); Rhode Island (Warwick); South Carolina (Greenville); Tennessee (Memphis, Franklin); Texas (Austin, San Antonio); Virginia (Falls Church, Richmond); Wisconsin (Appleton, Elm Grove, Madison).

For more information on eLove, visit www.elove.com.