Don’t be “Catfished” for Valentine’s Day – 5 Steps to Help Avoid Online Dating Deception

Julie Ferman

Did your online lover turn out to be a young boy playing a prank or an imposter? As in the documentary film and reality TV show “Catfish”, some people go to elaborate lengths to misrepresent themselves online and “hook” you into relationship. Eventually meeting the imposter can be heartbreaking and worse.

Julie Ferman, eLove’s Chief Relationship Expert, founder of Cupid’s Coach, and recipient of iDate’s Best Matchmaker award for the fourth consecutive year, shares five steps to help avoid this cruel deception:

Avoid the “bait and switch”. Photos that look too good to be true probably are. Those looking to deceive have no qualms about letting you believe they look like the image they have shared. They want to draw you in, and the easiest way to do so is by misrepresenting themselves with an attractive image that often doesn’t resemble the real person in the slightest.

Play the sleuth, if you haven’t already. Cross-reference your date’s information on his/her Facebook page with Twitter, their personal blog or with a professional page such as LinkedIn. If they make a claim that they hold a high profile job, visit that company’s website to see if staff is listed. At the very least, do a simple Google or white page search for your date to verify if they even live in the town, or the state, that they say they do.

Let video speak the truth. Seek authentication. Forgo chatting online via Facebook and encourage video chatting online via FaceTime, Skype, Gmail or iGoogle.

Meet in person. Period. There really is no valid excuse for carrying on a relationship with someone for longer than two weeks and not meeting in person. If all your suggestions of meeting in person and/or video chatting online are skillfully avoided and something always comes up which prevents the two of you meeting, then you should be very concerned and seriously consider ending the relationship.

Assume the best, prepare for the worst. Most people are good, honorable and safe to meet. Don’t be so cautious that you wall yourself off in your closet. Have the courage to get out there, attend events, meet up at business functions and online too. But do take these precautions to protect yourself in case you stumble upon a predator as they are indeed out there.

“No one likes to be deceived or ‘catfished’. A successful relationship is based on a number of things, but most important are: spending time (in person) together, truthfulness, honesty, respect and ultimately, the concern or care you have for that other person. Misrepresentation plays no role in a successful relationship,” explained Ms. Ferman.

She continued, “When it comes to helping others meet, find love and enjoy a successful long-term relationship, we take steps to ensure authenticity. Prior to making an introduction, we meet face-to-face with both parties and verify their identity. Then we go to great lengths to get to know each member and introduce them to qualified matches. After each date, we obtain feedback from both parties immediately.”

eLove is All You Need

eLove was honored with four coveted awards from iDate, including Best Matchmaker, Most Innovative Company, Best Dating Coach, and Best Affiliate Program.eLove is the first “life stage company” within the dating industry to provide different levels of dating services, based on how serious singles are about meeting their soul mate. Never before has a dating service catered so completely to everyone regardless of their age, sex, or relationship goals. With more than 35 matchmaking offices in 19 states and three offices in Canada, eLove Matchmaking is everything that singles have been wishing for whether they are looking for better quality dating experiences or a long term relationship.

Elove’s Matchmaking offices are located in: Arizona, California, Connecticut, Illinois, Indiana, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Nebraska, Nevada, New Jersey, Ohio, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, Texas, Virginia, Wisconsin, and in Canada: Calgary, Mississauga, Edmonton.

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If you would like more information about this topic, or to schedule an interview, please call Terry Fitzpatrick at 781-982-4522 or email pr@elovecorp.com.

Renowned Matchmaker Julie Ferman to Oversee eLove’s LA and Westlake Village Offices

Julie Ferman

Julie Ferman, a renowned matchmaker and the former principal of Cupid’s Coach matchmaking company will head eLove’s newest offices in Los Angeles and Westlake Village.

eLove, the fastest growing matchmaking firm in the country, recently acquired Cupid’s Coach, bringing the total number of eLove matchmaking offices to 50 nationwide. Ferman, who has been in the matchmaking business for more than 20 years and who is responsible for more than 1100 marriages, has been named Executive Director of eLove’s LA and Westlake Village offices.

Ferman has worn a number of hats over the years, including that of personal matchmaker, consultant, dating coach, professional speaker and media personality. She has appeared on Good Morning America, The Today Show, NBC’s “Match Off”, E’s “Kendra” and was recently awarded iDATE’s “Matchmaker of the Year Award”.

In addition to offering clients both traditional matchmaking through eLove’s existing model and mutual selection matchmaking using detailed personal resumes and professional photos, eLove’s Ferman will provide high end personal matchmaking services and a full menu of coaching services to singles throughout California.

According to Ferman, “We’re very proactive about finding the right match for our clients. Now, with eLove’s expanded offerings, we can search for the right match from within our client base, as well as through the passive referral members we recruit through avenues such as events and affiliate referrals. It’s a win-win for our clients.”

“We help singles make that all-important initial connection with the right people. Our goal is to dignify and simplify the love search process for selective, relationship-minded professionals,” Ferman continued. “For example, if you’re a concert pianist with a passion for classical music who would like to meet someone in a similar profession with similar interests, we can help. We aren’t just going to provide our client with a number of introductions to people who may or may not be right for him. We’re passionate about making successful connections.”

Ferman is a member of the Board of Directors of Matchmaking Pro, the International Association of Professional Matchmakers. She is a frequent speaker at national and international Internet Dating conferences and received the Best Matchmaker award from the Internet Dating/Social Networking conference at iDate2010.

For complete information on eLove’s matchmaking and online dating services, visit www.elove.com.

For a free copy of Paul A. Falzone’s book “eLove: A Singles Guide”, please visit www.elovesuccess.com.

eLove is all you need

eLove, the next evolution in dating, has arrived. eLove is the first “life stage company” within the dating industry to provide a full range of dating services, from internet to traditional matchmaking to high level mutual selection matchmaking, based on how serious singles are about meeting their soul mate. Never before has a dating service catered so completely to everyone regardless of their age, sex, or relationship goals. With 50 matchmaking offices in 23 states and an online dating network of more than three million singles worldwide, eLove is everything that singles have been wishing for whether they are looking for casual dating or a serious, committed relationship.

eLove’s Matchmaking Service offices are located in: Arkansas (Bentonville, Fort Smith, Little Rock); California (Los Angeles, Palo Alto, Sacramento, San Diego, Santa Rosa Walnut Creek, Westlake Village); Connecticut (Glastonbury, Stamford); Illinois (Chicago, Downers Grove, Normal, Schaumburg, Rockford); Indiana (Carmel, Ft. Wayne); Kansas (Overland Park, Wichita); Kentucky (Louisville); Maryland (Columbia, Frederick); Massachusetts (Newton, Norwell, Shrewsbury, Woburn); Michigan (Bingham Farms); Missouri (Springfield, St. Louis); Nebraska (Lincoln, Omaha); New Jersey (Saddle Brook); Nevada (Las Vegas); Ohio (Cincinnati); Oklahoma (Oklahoma City, Tulsa); Pennsylvania (Mechanicsburg); Rhode Island (Warwick); South Carolina (Greenville); Tennessee (Memphis, Franklin); Texas (Austin, San Antonio); Virginia (Falls Church, Richmond); Wisconsin (Appleton, Elm Grove, Madison).

For more information on eLove, visit www.elove.com.

eLove captures Cupid and #1 matchmaker in coast-to-coast connection. Boston-based eLove acquires LA-based Cupid’s Coach.

Julie Ferman, Cupid's Coach
Julie Ferman of Cupid's Coach, now an eLove company

LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA AND NORWELL, MASSACHUSETTS…

eLove, the fastest growing matchmaking firm in the country, recently acquired Cupid’s Coach, a Los Angeles-based matchmaking company. The addition of Cupid Coach’s two locations in Los Angeles and Westlake Village brings eLove’s total number of matchmaking offices to 50 nationwide.

“We’re positively thrilled with the addition of Cupid’s Coach for many reasons,” said Paul A. Falzone, CEO of eLove. “Besides giving us a presence in a large market like LA, it gives us the opportunity to add one of the great matchmakers in the business today, Julie Ferman.”

As the principal of Cupid’s Coach, Julie Ferman has been in the matchmaking business for more than 20 years. She’s appeared on NBC’s “Match Off”, E’s “Kendra” and was recently awarded iDATE’s “Matchmaker of the Year Award”. Ferman is responsible for more than 1100 marriages.

The partnership with eLove makes sense for us on many levels,” said Ferman. “We are now the first dating company to offer our clients both traditional matchmaking through eLove’s existing model and mutual selection matchmaking, using detailed personal resumes and professional photos. Cupid’s Coach brings two other innovations to eLove’s higher level service offerings: ongoing coaching and personal recruiting. So, not only are we able to search for the right match from within eLove/Cupid’s Coach client base, but also through the passive referral members we proactively recruit through avenues such as events and affiliate referrals.” 

To celebrate the merger, eLove and Cupid’s Coach will be hosting the Fall Magic Cocktail Mixer and Dance party on Saturday, October 2. The event, which goes from 7 p.m. to 1 a.m., will be held at the Aqua Lounge at 424 N. Beverly Drive in Beverly Hills. The event will include:

  • Healthy light appetizers from 7p.m. to 8:30 p.m.
  • “ASK THE LOVE EXPERTS” open panel from 7:30 p.m. to 8:15 p.m.
  • FREE profile photo for Cupid’s Coach or eLove
  • Fun Rapid Mixer to meet tons of great people at 8:30 p.m.
  • Raffle prizes, tarot readings, massage and more!

For complete information on eLove’s matchmaking and online dating services, visit www.elove.com. To find out more on Cupid’s Coach, visit www.cupidscoach.com.

For a free copy of Paul A. Falzone’s book “eLove: A Singles Guide”, please visit www.elovesuccess.com.

eLove is all you need

eLove, the next evolution in dating, has arrived.  eLove is the first “life stage company” within the dating industry to provide a full range of dating services, from internet to traditional matchmaking to high level mutual selection matchmaking, based on how serious singles are about meeting their soul mate.  Never before has a dating service catered so completely to everyone regardless of their age, sex, or relationship goals. With 50 matchmaking offices in 23 states and an online dating network of more than three million singles worldwide, eLove is everything that singles have been wishing for whether they are looking for casual dating or a serious, committed relationship.

eLove’s Matchmaking Service offices are located in:  Arkansas (Bentonville, Fort Smith, Little Rock); California (Los Angeles, Palo Alto, Sacramento, San Diego, Santa Rosa Walnut Creek, Westlake Village); Connecticut (Glastonbury, Stamford); Illinois (Chicago, Downers Grove, Normal, Schaumburg, Rockford); Indiana (Carmel, Ft. Wayne); Kansas (Overland Park, Wichita); Kentucky (Louisville); Maryland (Columbia, Frederick); Massachusetts (Newton, Norwell, Shrewsbury, Woburn); Michigan (Bingham Farms); Missouri (Springfield, St. Louis); Nebraska (Lincoln, Omaha); New Jersey (Saddle Brook); Nevada (Las Vegas); Ohio (Cincinnati); Oklahoma (Oklahoma City, Tulsa); Pennsylvania (Mechanicsburg); Rhode Island (Warwick); South Carolina (Greenville); Tennessee (Memphis, Franklin); Texas (Austin, San Antonio); Virginia (Falls Church, Richmond); Wisconsin (Appleton, Elm Grove, Madison).

 For more information on eLove, visit www.elove.com.