So, you met someone and managed to snag contact information. How do you close the deal to make that first date?
According to Paul A. Falzone, CEO of the world’s largest bricks and mortar dating service The Right One and Together Dating, “Even in the wake of texting, IM, email and chat rooms, there is no substitute for the first phone conversation. It is still a must to hold a ‘live’ conversation, as opposed to a technological exchange with someone you may want to get to know better. And, what transpires during that first call will likely open the door to that first date.”
Although we’re in the age of technology, phone conversations are a must. Hearing the other person’s voice on the phone allows you to process more information about that person. Not only are you listening to what they say, but how they say it.
Falzone continued, “Imagine making a date with someone via IM only to find out when you meet in person that his/her laugh and mannerisms freak you out because they are too much like your ex’s?”
How do you ensure that first call will lead to that first date? Falzone advises you to follow a few simple rules:
Call when you say you are going to call. Nothing is more aggravating than expecting a call only to receive it three days later at a highly inopportune time.
Try to relax. Both of you may be nervous during the first conversation and it’s okay to admit it. Be yourself and don’t try to put on airs or act mysterious. Remember, this is someone whom you’d like to get to know better and a potential relationship in the making.
Avoid TMI. Don’t share too much information too soon. Whether you’re dissatisfied with your job; your parents are driving you crazy; you’re dirt poor; you’re living like a rock star or you haven’t had sex in a while – keep it all to yourself.
Topics that should be explored include your interests, politics, recent vacations or events you’ve enjoyed, movies, music, food, pets, books and so on. There’s a variety of “safe” topics to discuss, essentially guaranteeing your call will be a success and lead to a first date, and a positive one at that.
Timing is everything. So you’re shy and feel much more comfortable sending email than talking on the phone, but you know you must make that first call. Even though you may not want to talk on the phone, don’t end the call too quickly. Try to conduct at least a five to 10 minute conversation. For those of you who have no problem chatting it up, respect the other person’s time and don’t keep him/her on the phone for hours. If you’re hitting it off that well, make arrangements for a date and continue your conversation in person.
Close the deal. You’ve enjoyed your phone conversation, now it’s time to take it to the next step by making plans for a date.
“If you can be yourself, and be confident in who you are, a successful first call will lead to that first date – and love will eventually come knocking on your door,” noted Falzone.
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Catering to more than 300,000 members at more than 60 locations throughout North America, The Right One and Together Dating are the largest brick and mortar dating services in the industry, offering a more consistent product, a greater number of potentially compatible mates and added value of flexibility in transferring memberships to another geographic region.
North American locations and affiliates of Together are located in: Indiana (Ft. Wayne, Carmel); Kentucky (Louisville); Louisiana (Metairie); Maryland (Columbia, Frederick); Minnesota (Edina); Nevada (Reno); New Hampshire (Hooksett, Nashua, Portsmouth and Salem); Ohio (Cincinnati); South Carolina (Greenville); Texas (San Antonio and Austin) and Virginia (Falls Church); Pennsylvania (Harrisburg).
The Right One’s offices and affiliates located throughout the United States include: California (San Diego); Colorado (Glendale); Georgia (Atlanta); Illinois (Downers Grove, Rockford Normal and Chicago); Massachusetts (Norwell, Newton Center, Shrewsbury and Woburn); Michigan (Bingham Farms); Nebraska (Omaha and Lincoln); New Jersey (Cherry Hill); New York (NYC); Nevada (Las Vegas); Pennsylvania (King of Prussia); Rhode Island (Warwick); Texas (Dallas); Utah (Salt Lake City); and Wisconsin (Madison, Appleton, Elm Grove).
Singles Station Dating Company, an affiliate of The Right One and Together Dating, is the largest independently owned personal introduction service in the Southwest. In the last 25 years, Singles Station has introduced more than 100,000 couples and is responsible for thousands of successful relationships and marriages. Singles Station Dating Co. has offices conveniently located in Oklahoma (Oklahoma City and Tulsa), Arkansas (Bentonville, Fort Smith and Little Rock), Tennessee (Memphis and Nashville), Missouri (Springfield and St. Louis) and will be opening soon in Kansas (Wichita and Kansas City). For more information about Singles Station, please visit www.singlesstation.com or call 866-807-LOVE(5683).