Don’t be “Catfished” for Valentine’s Day – 5 Steps to Help Avoid Online Dating Deception

Julie Ferman

Did your online lover turn out to be a young boy playing a prank or an imposter? As in the documentary film and reality TV show “Catfish”, some people go to elaborate lengths to misrepresent themselves online and “hook” you into relationship. Eventually meeting the imposter can be heartbreaking and worse.

Julie Ferman, eLove’s Chief Relationship Expert, founder of Cupid’s Coach, and recipient of iDate’s Best Matchmaker award for the fourth consecutive year, shares five steps to help avoid this cruel deception:

Avoid the “bait and switch”. Photos that look too good to be true probably are. Those looking to deceive have no qualms about letting you believe they look like the image they have shared. They want to draw you in, and the easiest way to do so is by misrepresenting themselves with an attractive image that often doesn’t resemble the real person in the slightest.

Play the sleuth, if you haven’t already. Cross-reference your date’s information on his/her Facebook page with Twitter, their personal blog or with a professional page such as LinkedIn. If they make a claim that they hold a high profile job, visit that company’s website to see if staff is listed. At the very least, do a simple Google or white page search for your date to verify if they even live in the town, or the state, that they say they do.

Let video speak the truth. Seek authentication. Forgo chatting online via Facebook and encourage video chatting online via FaceTime, Skype, Gmail or iGoogle.

Meet in person. Period. There really is no valid excuse for carrying on a relationship with someone for longer than two weeks and not meeting in person. If all your suggestions of meeting in person and/or video chatting online are skillfully avoided and something always comes up which prevents the two of you meeting, then you should be very concerned and seriously consider ending the relationship.

Assume the best, prepare for the worst. Most people are good, honorable and safe to meet. Don’t be so cautious that you wall yourself off in your closet. Have the courage to get out there, attend events, meet up at business functions and online too. But do take these precautions to protect yourself in case you stumble upon a predator as they are indeed out there.

“No one likes to be deceived or ‘catfished’. A successful relationship is based on a number of things, but most important are: spending time (in person) together, truthfulness, honesty, respect and ultimately, the concern or care you have for that other person. Misrepresentation plays no role in a successful relationship,” explained Ms. Ferman.

She continued, “When it comes to helping others meet, find love and enjoy a successful long-term relationship, we take steps to ensure authenticity. Prior to making an introduction, we meet face-to-face with both parties and verify their identity. Then we go to great lengths to get to know each member and introduce them to qualified matches. After each date, we obtain feedback from both parties immediately.”

eLove is All You Need

eLove was honored with four coveted awards from iDate, including Best Matchmaker, Most Innovative Company, Best Dating Coach, and Best Affiliate Program.eLove is the first “life stage company” within the dating industry to provide different levels of dating services, based on how serious singles are about meeting their soul mate. Never before has a dating service catered so completely to everyone regardless of their age, sex, or relationship goals. With more than 35 matchmaking offices in 19 states and three offices in Canada, eLove Matchmaking is everything that singles have been wishing for whether they are looking for better quality dating experiences or a long term relationship.

Elove’s Matchmaking offices are located in: Arizona, California, Connecticut, Illinois, Indiana, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Nebraska, Nevada, New Jersey, Ohio, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, Texas, Virginia, Wisconsin, and in Canada: Calgary, Mississauga, Edmonton.

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If you would like more information about this topic, or to schedule an interview, please call Terry Fitzpatrick at 781-982-4522 or email pr@elovecorp.com.

Oh, Canada! eLove Matchmaking opens matchmaking offices in Mississauga, Edmonton and Calgary.

EDMONTON, AB, CALGARY, AB, MISSISSAUGA, ON AND NORWELL, MA USA…

eLove Matchmaking, one of the world’s largest professional introduction services, recently opened matchmaking offices in Mississauga, Edmonton and Calgary.

Headquartered in Norwell, Massachusetts, eLove Matchmaking has more than 50 offices in 26 states in the United States. The three new offices are the only eLove Matchmaking offices presently in Canada.

“We’ve had our eye on opening offices in Canada for quite some time and we’re thrilled to be opening up these three offices with hopes of adding more down the road,” said Paul A. Falzone, CEO of eLove Matchmaking. “Love is truly an international language and we believe the matchmaking techniques that have been so successful for clients in the States will work just as well in the great white north.”

eLove Matchmaking’s Canadian offices are located at:

  • Mississauga –  4257 Sherwoodtowne Blvd, Suite 300, Mississauga, ON,
    888-408-6914
  • Edmonton – 9856 89 Avenue, Edmonton, AB, 888-408-6914
  • Calgary – 1842 14th Street SW, Calgary, AB, 888-408-6914

eLove Matchmaking works with singles age 21 to 70. The process starts with clients filling out a detailed questionnaire that delves into what they are looking for in a relationship. The eLove matchmaker then conducts an interview with the client to review their answers and further clarify what they might be looking for in a mate.

“In an ordinary dating scenario with somebody you met on your own or online, it might take five to 10 dates to find out what that person wants and is looking for,” said Falzone. “Because of our interview process, singles have more knowledge about the person they are dating from day one—what they like, what they want, etc. This removes much of the guesswork so singles are meeting people who they are more compatible with and have a better chance of making a connection.”

In addition to a thorough interview process, eLove Matchmaking also conducts a mandatory background check for the safety of everyone they match.

“There’s a reason we’ve been able to match thousands of singles in our three decades in business: what we do works,” said Falzone. “I simply can’t wait for our first Canadian wedding.”

To arrange a consultation with a professional matchmaker or for a membership, contact eLove toll-free at 866-881-1230or visit www.elove.ca.

eLove is all you need

eLove Matchmaking, the next evolution in dating, has arrived.  eLove is the first “life stage company” within the dating industry to provide different levels of dating services, based on how serious singles are about meeting their soul mate.  Never before has a dating service catered so completely to everyone regardless of their age, sex, or relationship goals. With more than 50 matchmaking offices in 25 states, eLove Matchmaking is everything that singles have been wishing for whether they are looking for casual dating or a serious, committed relationship.

eLove’s Matchmaking offices are located in: Arizona (Scottsdale/Phoenix);  Arkansas (Bentonville, Fort Smith, Little Rock); California (Costa Mesa, Palo Alto, Sacramento, Walnut Creek, San Diego, Santa Rosa, Westlake, West Hollywood); Connecticut (Glastonbury, Stamford); Idaho (Meridian); Illinois (Chicago, Normal, Schaumburg); Indiana (Carmel, Ft. Wayne); Kansas (Overland Park, Wichita); Maryland (Columbia, Frederick); Massachusetts (Newton, Norwell, Shrewsbury, Stoneham); Michigan (Bingham Farms); Minnesota (Bloomington); Missouri (Springfield, St. Louis); Nebraska (Lincoln, Omaha); Nevada (Las Vegas); New Jersey (Iselin, Saddle Brook); Ohio (Cincinnati); Oklahoma (Broken Arrow, Oklahoma City, Tulsa); Pennsylvania (Mechanicsburg, King of Prussia); Rhode Island (Warwick); South Carolina (Greenville); Tennessee (Memphis, Franklin); Texas (Austin, San Antonio); Virginia (Falls Church, Richmond); Wisconsin (Appleton, Elm Grove, Madison). eLove Matchmaking also has offices in Canada (Edmonton, AB; Calgary, AB; Mississauga, ON).

For more information on eLove, visit www.elove.com.

Valentine’s Day is around the corner. eLove Matchmaker explains true meaning of Romance

Paul A. Falzone, CEO of eLove Matchmaking

The first Valentine greeting was sent by a priest known as Valentine in third century Rome to his jailor’s daughter, whom he fell in love with while in prison. How could such an endearing message of love evolve into the parade of elaborate gifts and hype of today?

Paul A. Falzone, CEO of eLove Matchmaking, one of the largest professional introduction companies in the world, explains, “A candlelit dinner and a dozen roses is a sweet gesture, but everybody does it. Dining out has become commonplace. The true meaning of romance lies in originality. Your ‘message of love’ has to be personal and really mean something to the recipient.”

Falzone gives examples of a few romantic gestures that may give you some of your own creative ideas:

Say it with flowers – all year long. You know your sweetheart loves white hydrangeas no matter what the season. Arrange a monthly delivery of her favorite flower for a full year with your florist, with the first delivery beginning on Valentine’s Day. Not telling her that she’ll receive a beautiful arrangement every month is part of the romantic surprise.

Say “you’re special to me” by knowing what s/he likes the most. Maybe she loves live theater, but always seems to miss out on shows because she waits until the last minute to get tickets. Get her season tickets and then escort her.

Support his/her dreams. Perhaps he mentioned that mountain climbing was something he always dreamed about doing. You don’t need to climb the mountain with him, but you might give him a piece of equipment he’ll need to do it or a membership to a climbing club. Supporting his dreams is romantic.

Revisit a special place. On your third date, you went on a picnic on a hill overlooking the town and watched the sunset. That’s the day when you both knew you were serious about each other. You may not be able to recreate the entire scene, but it’s romantic to do it again in honor of that special day.

“Giving jewelry or other big ticket gifts on Valentine’s Day seems to be the norm, but romance is a little more than that. It’s easy to go a store and buy a gift. It’s more about knowing your sweetheart and making a very personal gesture. It’s going out of your way to let them know they are special to you,” said Falzone.

Off-beat Date Contest

Have a great, “offbeat date” story? eLove Matchmaking is holding a Valentine’s Day contest and may publish it online at elovemagazine.com. Email your “Best Offbeat Date” story to eLove Matchmaking at pr@elove.com.

eLove is all you need

With more than 50 matchmaking offices in 25 states, eLove Matchmaking is everything that singles have been wishing for. eLove Matchmaking was voted “#1 Matchmaker” in 2010 and 2011 and their professional matchmakers have paired literally thousands of singles over the past three decades. In addition to a one-on-one meeting with each member, eLove conducts thorough background checks for the safety of everyone they match.

eLove Matchmaking offices are located in: Arizona (Scottsdale/Phoenix); Arkansas (Bentonville, Fort Smith, Little Rock); California (Costa Mesa, Palo Alto, Sacramento, Walnut Creek, San Diego, Santa Rosa, Westlake, West Hollywood); Connecticut (Glastonbury, Stamford); Illinois (Chicago, Normal, Schaumburg); Indiana (Carmel, Ft. Wayne); Kansas (Overland Park, Wichita); Maryland (Columbia, Frederick); Massachusetts (Newton, Norwell, Shrewsbury, Stoneham); Michigan (Bingham Farms); Minnesota (Bloomington); Missouri (Springfield, St. Louis); Nebraska (Lincoln, Omaha); Nevada (Las Vegas); New Jersey (Iselin, Saddle Brook); Ohio (Cincinnati); Oklahoma (Broken Arrow, Oklahoma City, Tulsa); Pennsylvania (Mechanicsburg, King of Prussia); Rhode Island (Warwick); South Carolina (Greenville); Tennessee (Memphis, Franklin); Texas (Austin, San Antonio); Virginia (Falls Church, Richmond); Wisconsin (Appleton, Elm Grove, Madison).

For more information on eLove, visit www.elove.com.

First Marriage of the Year – January 1, 2012, thanks to eLove

She knew it was love when they shared desserts of cheesecake and apple crisp on their first date at the Piccadilly Pub in Foxboro.

Soon thereafter, Kathy Jones, 51, a Quincy resident and Edward P. Mathers, 58, an Attleboro resident, became perhaps the first newlyweds of the New Year when they tied the knot on January 1, at 2 p.m. at First Baptist Church in Hingham. More than 100 were in attendance.

The wedding, the second for both the bride and the groom, was a family affair and included the daughter of the bride, Kimberly P. Jones as the maid of honor and Kathy’s brother William Long walked her walked her down aisle.

Other participating family including grandson Gabriel Jones, 4, who served as the ring bearer; niece Brianne Killcommons, 5, as flower girl; niece Mary Lou Long assisted with a reading and son Mathew Jones served as an usher. Best man was Ron Stokes, a long-time friend of the groom.

The bride wore a bright red gown which she noted represents “a second chance at love.”

The couple met through eLove, the nation’s largest office-based dating service. Kathy commented, “The dating service was wonderful. They were very responsive and offered great tips and advice to make me more comfortable on my dates. Bless them. I would have never met Edward without their help.”

Kathy continued, “They really matched us well. We have so much in common including a love for outdoor sports – kayaking and biking. We even went on our first camping trip with my family in July. Sometimes we just stay in and get cozy watching movies. Just spending time together is a pleasure.”

Kathy added, “We are very open about meeting through a dating service. In fact, the massage therapist who I saw prior to the wedding ceremony was also married off by eLove. And Ed’s tuxedo rental clerk also met his wife through eLove. We took these as very good signs.”

The newly minted New Year’s couple planned to honeymoon in Portsmouth and North Conway, NH prior to settling in Attleboro.

eLove is all you need
With more than 50 matchmaking offices in 25 states, eLove Matchmaking is everything that singles have been wishing for. eLove Matchmaking was voted “#1 Matchmaker” in 2010 and 2011 and their professional matchmakers have paired literally thousands of singles over the past three decades. In addition to a one-on-one meeting with each member, eLove conducts thorough background checks for the safety of everyone they match.

eLove Matchmaking offices are located in: Arizona (Scottsdale/Phoenix); Arkansas (Bentonville, Fort Smith, Little Rock); California (Costa Mesa, Palo Alto, Sacramento, Walnut Creek, San Diego, Santa Rosa, Westlake, West Hollywood); Connecticut (Glastonbury, Stamford); Illinois (Chicago, Normal, Schaumburg); Indiana (Carmel, Ft. Wayne); Kansas (Overland Park, Wichita); Maryland (Columbia, Frederick); Massachusetts (Newton, Norwell, Shrewsbury, Stoneham); Michigan (Bingham Farms); Minnesota (Bloomington); Missouri (Springfield, St. Louis); Nebraska (Lincoln, Omaha); Nevada (Las Vegas); New Jersey (Iselin, Saddle Brook); Ohio (Cincinnati); Oklahoma (Broken Arrow, Oklahoma City, Tulsa); Pennsylvania (Mechanicsburg, King of Prussia); Rhode Island (Warwick); South Carolina (Greenville); Tennessee (Memphis, Franklin); Texas (Austin, San Antonio); Virginia (Falls Church, Richmond); Wisconsin (Appleton, Elm Grove, Madison).

For more information on eLove, visit www.elove.com.

Kathy Jones, 51, a Quincy resident and Edward P. Mathers, 58, an Attleboro resident, became perhaps the first newlyweds of the New Year when they tied the knot on January 1, at 2 p.m. at First Baptist Church in Hingham. More than 100 were in attendance.

eLove Matchmaking Launches Valentine’s Day Contest

Whether it was your first date or your thirty-first date – if you have a great, offbeat date story, eLove Matchmaking wants to hear about it.

eLove Matchmaking is holding a Valentine’s Day contest for the “Best Offbeat Date” story. From now until February 13th, submit your “Best, Offbeat Date” story for a chance to win a $50 Darden Restaurant Gift Card.

“We’ve all experienced that quirky date, where plans get mixed up, Mother Nature interferes or the date takes an amusing, unusual twist. The funny thing is that an offbeat date can turn out to be a positive experience and oftentimes the beginning of a beautiful relationship,” said Paul A. Falzone, CEO of eLove, one of the largest professional introduction companies in the world.

Perhaps your romantic dinner at a swanky restaurant turned into a giddy farce when you were provided with only bread sticks and wine due to a power outage from severe weather. Or, the time your date dinged another couple’s car while parallel parking and you ended up on a double date with the other couple, springing for dinner as restitution. eLove Matchmaking will share the submitted stories online at elovemagazine.com.

On Valentine’s Day, three winning “Best, Offbeat Date” stories will be announced. Winners will receive a $50 Darden Gift Card to be used at any one of the following six restaurants: Red Lobster, Olive Garden, Longhorn Steak House, The Capital Grille, Bahama Breeze or Seasons 52.

Email your “Best Offbeat Date” story to eLove Matchmaking at pr@elove.com .

eLove is all you need

With more than 50 matchmaking offices in 25 states, eLove Matchmaking is everything that singles have been wishing for. eLove Matchmaking was voted “#1 Matchmaker” in 2010 and 2011 and their professional matchmakers have paired literally thousands of singles over the past three decades. In addition to a one-on-one meeting with each member, eLove conducts thorough background checks for the safety of everyone they match.

eLove Matchmaking offices are located in: Arizona (Scottsdale/Phoenix); Arkansas (Bentonville, Fort Smith, Little Rock); California (Costa Mesa, Palo Alto, Sacramento, Walnut Creek, San Diego, Santa Rosa, Westlake, West Hollywood); Connecticut (Glastonbury, Stamford); Illinois (Chicago, Normal, Schaumburg); Indiana (Carmel, Ft. Wayne); Kansas (Overland Park, Wichita); Maryland (Columbia, Frederick); Massachusetts (Newton, Norwell, Shrewsbury, Stoneham); Michigan (Bingham Farms); Minnesota (Bloomington); Missouri (Springfield, St. Louis); Nebraska (Lincoln, Omaha); Nevada (Las Vegas); New Jersey (Iselin, Saddle Brook); Ohio (Cincinnati); Oklahoma (Broken Arrow, Oklahoma City, Tulsa); Pennsylvania (Mechanicsburg, King of Prussia); Rhode Island (Warwick); South Carolina (Greenville); Tennessee (Memphis, Franklin); Texas (Austin, San Antonio); Virginia (Falls Church, Richmond); Wisconsin (Appleton, Elm Grove, Madison).

For more information on eLove, visit www.elove.com.