As astronauts prepare to re-enter the earth’s atmosphere, they put on a special suit. This suit not only takes into account the climate change, but the condition of their bodies after a difficult journey. The newly single 40-something male does not have that luxury to ease their re-entry into the dating world. That’s why eLove, one world’s largest professional matchmaking services, recently created a special division to cater to the needs of newly single men over 40.
“When you come out of a divorce or breakup and you haven’t been on a date in a while, it can feel like you are on another planet where you don’t speak the language and all the rules of society have changed,” said Paul A. Falzone, CEO of eLove. “With this new division, our matchmakers can provide male singles over 40 with a bit of a refresher course on dating and also help them mentally prepare to date once again.”
Some of that guidance involves going over the unspoken rules of dating, like: who picks up the tab; when and how often to call or text; should you kiss her goodnight on the first date, second?; how long should you date someone before becoming intimate; etc. Yet the real focus of the new division is mental preparation
“A lot of men who are over 40 and single again have not been single for quite some time. On top of that, many weren’t fathers and singles and that does change how you go about things,” said Falzone.
Whether you use a matchmaking company or not, Falzone recommends:
- Going slow – perhaps it’s a cliché, but a divorce is a life-altering event and you do need some time to heal.
- Avoid the bar scene – Getting out with friends and co-workers as a way to re-enter the social scene but don’t do it as a way to meet potential dates.
- Get fit – Being ready to date again means feeling good about yourself. Starting an exercise program or going to a gym can begin that process of feeling good about you again.
- Be wary of dating at work – it’s natural for you to be close to people you work with, particularly if they’ve helped you through a tough time. Just be careful before entering into a relationship or even dating somebody at the office.
- Networking – While being set up might not be your idea of getting back into the dating game, if you’re looking it couldn’t hurt to let people in your social or professional network know that you are interested in meeting new people.
- The ex – It’s safe to say that dwelling on the ex will not do much good in dating new people. Just remember that you’re dating again for you, not to get back at him/her or to find somebody before he or she does.
- Take your time before introducing your dates to friends and, especially family – if you think your divorce is an adjustment for you, it’s also one for family, friends and your children. Wait before introducing your date to them, especially the children.
- No overnight guests – If you have children, wait a significant amount of time before having any overnight guests—at least until your date is something more serious and has had a chance to form some kind of a relationship with your kids.
“At 40, we’re supposed to be wiser to the ways of the world. But the dating world can be an entirely different world,” said Falzone. “With our new division, over 40 single males have not only the opportunity to meet the right person, but to have the information and be in the right mindset to make that love connection happen.”
eLove is all you need
eLove, the next evolution in dating, has arrived. eLove is the first “life stage company” within the dating industry to provide different levels of dating services, from internet to traditional matchmaking, based on how serious singles are about meeting their soul mate. Never before has a dating service catered so completely to everyone regardless of their age, sex, or relationship goals. With 52 matchmaking offices in 23 states and an online dating network of more than three million singles worldwide, eLove is everything that singles have been wishing for whether they are looking for casual dating or a serious, committed relationship.
eLove’s Matchmaking Service offices are located in: Arkansas (Bentonville, Fort Smith, Little Rock); California (Los Angeles, Palo Alto, Sacramento, Walnut Creek, San Diego, Santa Rosa, Westlake); Connecticut (Glastonbury, Stamford); Illinois (Chicago, Downers Grove, Normal, Schaumburg, Rockford); Indiana (Carmel, Ft. Wayne); Kansas (Overland Park, Wichita); Maryland (Columbia, Frederick); Massachusetts (Newton, Norwell, Shrewsbury, Woburn); Michigan (Bingham Farms);Minnesota (Edina); Missouri (Springfield, St. Louis); Nebraska (Lincoln, Omaha); New Jersey (Iselin, Saddle Brook); Nevada (Las Vegas); Ohio (Cincinnati); Oklahoma (Oklahoma City, Tulsa); Pennsylvania (Mechanicsburg, Philadelphia); Rhode Island (Warwick); South Carolina (Greenville); Tennessee (Memphis, Franklin); Texas (Austin, San Antonio); Virginia (Falls Church, Richmond); Wisconsin (Appleton, Elm Grove, Madison).
For more information on eLove, visit www.elove.com.