Matters of the heart –
An emotional affair, which often masquerades as a friendship, can happen whether you’re single, married or in a committed relationship.
Paul A. Falzone, CEO of eLove, one of the world’s largest matchmaking services, shares his insight about what constitutes emotional fidelity and the telltale signs of an emotional affair of someone who is in a committed relationship.
According to Falzone, “The best way to explain emotional fidelity is to explain what constitutes emotional infidelity. Technically, this is when you choose not to or you’re unable to share your emotions, thoughts and feelings with your significant other, yet you share them with someone else of the opposite sex. Although you’re not having a physical affair, you are being emotionally intimate with someone other than your partner.”
Emotional infidelity is not simple flirting. But, it can begin with flirting, as that is how many relationships develop. That casual banter with a co-worker may turn in to flirting and something more serious and emotionally involved as time goes on.
To be emotionally faithful is to not betray your partner. You know your partner better than anyone else; what his or her needs are and how he or she feels about everything. If you’re sharing special thoughts, feelings, ambitions or dreams with someone other than him or her, then you are knowingly being emotionally unfaithful and trust has been broken.
Here are a few examples of emotional fidelity that will help keep you in check:
You receive good (or bad) news, whether it relates to work, health, finances, friends or family and you’re excited to share it with your significant other (as opposed to someone else of the opposite sex).
You have a problem with your partner and you want to discuss it with your partner (and not someone else of the opposite sex).
You have a new idea or dream or you’re considering making a change in your life and the only person you discuss it with is the one whose got your back – your partner.
“To be cognizant of what is an isn’t emotional fidelity is half the battle. If you feel you can talk with, or that you are closer to, that ‘friend’ than you are to your significant other, then that’s a sure sign that your relationship needs attention,” noted Falzone.
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